Is jealous or possessive toward you - Tries to control you by being very bossy or demanding - Tries to isolate you by demanding you cut off social contacts and friendships. You are afraid to see your family or friends or do what you want because your partner gets angry. - Is violent and/or loses their temper quickly.- Pressures you sexually, demands sexual activities you are not comfortable with or the opposite, and will not give you any amount of physical attention. - abuses drugs or alcohol. - Claims you are responsible for their emotional state. - Blames YOU when THEY mistreat you. - Has a history of bad relationships. - Makes "jokes" that shame, humiliate, demean or embarrass you, privately or around family and friends. - Grew up witnessing an abusive parental relationship, and/or was abused as a child. - Rages when they feel hurt, shame, fear or loss of control.
- You frequently worry about how he or she will react to things you say or do.
- Your family and friends have warned you about the person or told you that they are concerned for your
safety or emotional well being.
- You leave and then return to your partner repeatedly, against the advice of your friends and family.
- You have trouble ending the relationship even though you know it's the right thing to do.
Ask yourself, DOES THE PERSON YOU LOVE...
- CONSTANTLY KEEP TRACK OF YOUR TIME?
- ACT JEALOUS AND POSSESSIVE?
- ACCUSE YOU OF BEING UNFAITHFUL OR FLIRTING?
- KEEP YOU AWAKE? FORCE YOU TO LISTEN TO HIM TALK FOR LONG PERIODS?
- CONSTANTLY CRITICIZES OR BELITTLES YOU?
- CONTROL ALL FINANCES AND FORCE YOU TO ACCOUNT FOR WHAT YOU SPEND?
- HUMILIATE YOU IN FRONT OF OTHERS? (INCLUDING "JOKING")
- DESTROY OR TAKE YOUR PERSONAL PROPERTY OR SENTIMENTAL ITEMS?
- GIVE YOU THE "SILENT TREATMENT"?
- THREATEN TO HURT YOU , YOUR CHILDREN, OR PETS?
- FORCE YOU TO HAVE SEX AGAINST YOUR WILL OR WITHHOLD SEX FROM YOU?
These are all warning signs of an abusive relationship. Notice there doesn't need to be any physical violence in order for it to be abusive. You are not at fault. You are not crazy. No, your love for him will not be enough to change him. Yes, you will be believed. Yes, you can be happy again. Stop the silence. Talk to someone.